I'm sorry you had to go through that @Rosyrain, how are things looking right now? Are you any clearer on what you want to do?
For me, the absolute deal breaker would be cheating. If you commit to a relationship, you also have to promise yourself that you would be loyal to the person you are with. It's the one thing I can never forgive if my spouse would do that to me.
Honesty seems to be a problem with all relationships. If you are not honest with your partner then you should not be in a relationship. I am not in a relationship and cannot afford to be in one in my case.
The most important for me is love. When there is love there is respect and mutual trust, so basically we have to keep that flame going to have a good relationship.
I would have to say being lied to. Once you find out that you are being lied to, it is hard to trust the person again. You are always wondering if they are telling the truth or if its another one of their lies. Once the trust has been broken it is hard to get it back and if you do it is never the way that it was before. If you don't have trust in a relationship then your relationship isn't going to grow. Being able to trust each other is a big part of any relationship.
Am not perfect but there things I can't put up with; Cheating, Dishonesty, Liar, Narcissism{prideful}, Alcoholic, Smoker, Jealous-types, Obnoxious, Abuser, Possessive, Mama's-boy, Loud-mouth, Insistor...I'll continue my list later
What a long list diane! I'll resume it to one, have a heart and common sense, when this exist the relation can go ahead, if not it's really complicated. Also...
Love the tee shirt, that made me laugh! I wonder if it is just harder to be in a relationship now than it ever was in generations past. A long time ago, people had to work really hard together in order to survive so there was not much time to think about lying to your spouse or cheating. Look at Hollywood for example, you can almost place bets with others on how long celebrity marriages will last. It is not a matter of if they will get a divorce, but when. Society has changed and people do not try hard enough now to work together as a couple.
If both ends aren't honest toward each other, then things mightn't work out very well I'd say. Just when I think that marriage occurs as such a fast pace these days and most teens don't even know themselves well, it really unsettles me from a point of view. It doesn't personally concern me, but that doesn't mean it leaves me careless about them. It's really sad to see so many divorces.
That is quite the list Diane but you are right. Sounds like you know your true value and you won't settle for less then you deserve. That is the way it should be. Far too many men and women just find a partner and settle even though they are not happy in their relationship.
