What would it take for you to relocate for a job? I applied for a civilian job with the Navy that will offer awesome pay and benefits if I were to get hired. The problem is that the job would be 2 hours away and I have a child about to enter high school. I will be so torn between 2 places if I get the job.
Some 2 years ago, I was given an offer by our company for a new position in the branch located in a far away province. Life there is easier since it is not highly urbanized like Metro Manila. And the standard of living is quite low. It would have been ideal except that the movement will displace me and my family and there is no premium in the salary, not even a living allowance is granted. With the same salary, I decided to just stay put in my present position. At least I am already settled here. Well, my assistant took the offer and he was there for 2 years now.
Location is one of the major factors I consider whenever I look for a job. If it is too far from my place, I usually think about it twice before pursuing the job. If it requires me having to move to another place, I would consider looking for another job instead. It would be too much of a hassle for a family person like me. When I was still single, I usually didn't mind moving for a job opportunity.
If I have a teenage kid I would definitely think twice about relocating for a job. One's decision can effect everyone around them. I would probably try my best to look for another job and go from there.
Personally... not much. I'm on the move all the time, though I do want to settle down permanently soon. But where I settle down, it really doesn't matter.
I think I will end up staying put, at least until she is out of high school. The job would be in my home town and I have family there, but it would probably be very hard for my daughter to adjust, especially since she only has 4 more years in school. Sometimes I wish I were young and free again. I guess I will be free again once the kids are grown and out of the house.
I must say, its easier to job-relocate when single than when married with kids, the latter becomes extremely stressful and mind-boggling, I recently relocated to a small town 100 miles from where I was previously, slowly adjusting and loving the whole experience. ... so to answer your question, I prefer relocating now when am single and not tied down to other engagements {family...}
Providing for your family comes first. If you the money is worth it then it may be your in your families best interest to move closer, or just get use to driving a lot. I know it sucks to be stuck in traffic, but what else are you going to do? Take in consideration of the travel time and the expenses of traveling everyday. Is it worth it? Are you actually making more by uprooting the family or paying for gas. It all comes down to the final line item. Will you be in the black?
You apparently had your mind made up when you first applied for the position. You were aware that if you would receive the job, it would be two hours away. You also realized that your children would be entering high school. I am thinking that the children are not in high school yet. It sounds like you are second guessing yourself. You are getting nervous. But on the bright side, if you would be offered a civilian job with the Navy that will offer awesome pay and benefits, then it sounds like that awesome job is just for you. The key word is awesome. It is so hard in this economy to land a awesome job with awesome benefits. You would be honored to take this position, because it sounds like a blessing. Your children would also meet and make new friends with some awesome high school children. They would also benefit from learning a new location, and how exciting it can be. I wish you well in making your decision on taking an awesome job with awesome benefits.
If I were you @OP, I'd talk with the kid, explain to them why moving might be good for the family, how life is all about new experiences, making new friends, etc, etc. You could start over in the new place, get the child into a new school and after a while they'll adjust . . . and probably get to like the new place.
