Should children be spanked by parents?

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  1. pwarbi

    pwarbi Senior Investor

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    Your child should never fear you, that's the last thing any parent wants of their children. Sometime though, depending on the age of the child, if they do something wrong that you can't explain to them in a way they'll understand, then sometimes a tap might be the only way to show them not to do it again.

    And when I say a tap, I mean just that, a tap so they know not to do it, not so they cower and flinch every time you raise your hand or your voice.
     
  2. TheApollonian

    TheApollonian Well-Known Member

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    Spanking or slapping is wrong. At that age from 3-6 children will always be curious and walk around like crazed sadistic dwarves because they're still testing their limits. You have to set an example and show them what's right with love and care. This isn't Crime and Punishment, your kid will definitely respect you when you spank them but don't trust that they will love you fully they might leave you in a home when you get older.
     
  3. AtlantaSports

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    That's the thing, though. It's not crime and punishment. You're not beating the crap out of your kid and not showing them love.
     
  4. Sandra

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    I definitely agree with those who said it shouldn't be the first method of discipline used and shouldn't be done often. I know of children who seem to have become immune to spanking and may even look forward to it. For those children, other alternatives must be employed. I also agree that punishments, especially spanking, shouldn't be done when highly upset.
     
  5. Rainman

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    The mistake parents these days make is imagine that they can be their kids best friend. And let them do whatever they damn well please. If you look around you'll notice that most kids are ill-mannered. The reason is obvious. Unless a kid is punished when they make mistakes they won't learn anything and their behavior problems will only get worse. Positive reinforcement does work, that's not debatable but when it fails to get the results you seek what's the alternative?
     
  6. pwarbi

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    How do you explain to a toddler that reaching for a pan handle on the cooker is wrong simply by love and care? You can't sit them down and explain the dangers of it and why it's for their own good that they don't do it. You might shout at first but if they continue to try, then I don't see anything wrong with a slap on the hand. I'd rather they get a slap on the hand than a pan of boiling water over them, that's for certain.

    And before anybody says anything, yes I know you should never leave pan handles overhanging a cooker with children around, that was just an example.
     
  7. JoshPosh

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    I believe in punishing and spanking your child. That is not the first option, but after repeated request and an attitude reply from them, it is the only course of action that seems to work. I think the problem that most people are having with spanking in general and it not being effective is that most don't explain to the kids why they got the spanking and what they should of done when I asked the first time, so they wouldn't get that type of treatment. If they understand that there are rules and if they don't follow them, then there are consequences. If your child understood you the first time it happened, anytime that you see it happening again, all you need to do is stare at them sternly, and once they make eye contact with you, they will understand what you are saying telepathically, and they can imagine the hit coming.

    Most of the time they will not cross you again, if they understand why they received a spanking and they don't want it happen again. They need to know that there are consequences at an early stage, or else they will run all over you.

    I see kids all the time in the grocery store yelling at the parents and throwing a fit. That would never happen with my kids. Because they all know that they are to be next to me at all times, and never touch anything without asking first. Temper tantrums are not tolerated.
     
  8. mooray

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    Definitely yes! Sometimes spanking alone is not enough and the parent needs to talk to the child. Although, I do not support over-spanking a child every time he/she makes a mistake.
     
  9. Rosyrain

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    I know that some will disagree with me, but I think a spanking can do a lot of good in extreme behavioral situations with kids. It is the parents choice though and outsiders should not spank anyone's kids. I have only spanked my kids a couple of times and that was when they really misbehaved.
     
  10. Hyperion

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    Yeah, don't spare the rod, but don't abuse it either. You need to be consistent. I'm still young, but at this point I have no desire to have kids because they seem so annoying and American culture has many poor child rearing habits. This is not a good place to raise kids, imo.
     

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