On Adoptions . . .

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  1. Rainman

    Rainman Senior Investor

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    Not too long ago I read a story about a mentally ill old man who left his wife so he could live as a 6 yr old girl.

    http://www.nydailynews.com/news/wor...eaves-wife-7-kids-live-girl-article-1.2463795
    Well, apparently one can never be too old to be adopted but isn't the family which took him in taking a huge risk? Someone like this certainly does need help.
     
  2. eddiemoneys

    eddiemoneys Well-Known Member

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    I fear they are enabling someone who is seriously mentally ill to continue a fantasy down a path that may take a very dark turn. What happens if the condition that makes them live out their fantasy as a child like that suddenly returns to them being an angry and confused man waking up in a bed with strangers in a diaper? Things like this are never stable nor healthy, and I think the family who does this are in danger just as much as the person they are enabling who is not seeking help for it.
     
  3. anorexorcist

    anorexorcist Well-Known Member

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    Well, yes, it's kind of weird... I think that before she was adopted other people needed to do a psychological evaluation to that woman, but I guess that's fine as long as she is happy and doesn't hurt anyone. But in the other hand she has a lot of kids, and one way or another she needs to show some support for them, independently of her situation.
     
  4. rz3300

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    I am very very confused now. So we are now letting people say that they are six years old and change their lives around this belief? I am all for personal rights and individuality and all of that good stuff, but this does seem a little out there. I am curious to see where this story goes though, so I will have to keep tabs.
     
  5. gracer

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    I know there are many weird stuff going on in the world today but reading this story still couldn't help but make me feel weird about it. I mean, the person is a totally grown-up person who used to have a wife and kids of his/her own then suddenly the person decides to become a 6-year-old girl. It's also kind of weird how a family was able to accept this person as their own child at an age which definitely doesn't look right on the person.
     
  6. TheApollonian

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    Yep, as a previous commenter wrote don't enable a mentally ill adult. Transitioning is great and all but only if you're in the proper mindset. I really just don't know with this one but as long as she's not hurting anyone I guess it's okay?
     
  7. Rainman

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    But isn't she going over the edge? Getting "adopted"? And pretending to be a 7 year old girl? As the adoptive family doesn't mind all that I think it's OK. But they should be wary and expect the worst at all times. This is what will keep them all safe.
     
  8. briannagodess

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    This is too much. For one, she has seven children who needs her guidance whether she's a man or woman. She cannot just leave them behind just because she wants to be a 6 years old transgender. If she wants that life, then she shouldn't had kids in the first place. It's irresponsible and immature of her to leave all responsibilities to the mother. At the very least, she could act as a father for the children's sake.

    And then, the family who adopted her, while their hospitality is nice, isn't it a bit flawed? For one, they're enabling a grown person to act like this when she has responsibilities to fulfil. They're confusing their own child as well with adopting a fully grown person capable of taking care of herself. What moral does that give to the little child?

    And lastly, I'm not against transgenders. But if they do have families, they need to take care of those financially and emotionally despite their transition.
     
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